FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
1. How do I know I'm a sex addict?
Take a look at the 12 question self assessment on the SAA website: http://saa-store.org/ One way of knowing is looking honestly at your life and sexual behaviors. Has acting out sexually caused your life to be unmanageable? Have you acted out despite knowing it was wrong or dangerous or risky? Getting into trouble (or the fear of) over our sex addiction is what has brought most of us here.
- What do I need to do to get better?
SAA is a program of actions:
- What is a sponsor?
A sponsor is someone you can work through the steps with or call when you need to "have a meeting" in between meetings. A sponsor can help you deal with the inevitable challenges of getting and keeping sexual abstinence.
- How do I get a sponsor?
There are no formal guidelines in SAA for getting a sponsor. Here are some suggestions:
- going to meetings
- reading recovery literature (http://saa-recovery.org/SAALiterature/)
- calling or e-mailing other members
- working the 12 steps with a sponsor
- practicing the principle of rigorous honesty
- Should I be concerned about incriminating myself?
Yes. If you've done something illegal that involves sex with a minor, rape, or engaging in unsafe sex, please be discrete. The general rule is to not mention names, relationships, times, and locations of incidents. This is to protect yourself as well as the meeting and SAA from outside interference.
- go to lots of meetings, the more meetings, the more potential sponsors you'll meet
- just ask someone
- reach out at meetings and share that you would like to get a sponsor
- be patient: "the teacher will appear when the student is ready.
5. Do I have to talk at the meeting?
No. We encourage you to listen to what others have to share and try to IDENTIFY. Share when you feel the desire to share. Just begin speaking during the sharing time and try to be as honest as possible about what brings you to the meeting. You don't need to raise your hand.
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